We are living in an epidemic of absence. Research suggests that the average human mind wanders for approximately 47% of waking hours, and crucially, a wandering mind is often an unhappy one. We are evolutionary time travelers, constantly pulled away from the "absolute now" by the gravitational forces of the past and the future.
The Architecture of Absence
Physiologically, this state of disconnection is governed by the Default Mode Network (DMN), a brain system that activates when we disengage from the external world. When the DMN hijacks our attention, we tend to fall into two distinct traps:
Rumination (The Past): We get stuck in retrospective loops, analyzing past failures or traumas. This is often linked to depression and activates memory centers in the medial temporal lobe.
Worry (The Future): We project into hypothetical scenarios, simulating threats that haven’t happened. This anxiety-driven state relies on similar neural hardware but is fueled by fear and uncertainty.
In severe cases, such as in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or PTSD, this absence becomes dissociation—a protective "freeze" response where the brain chemically severs the connection to the present moment to avoid overwhelming pain.
The Trap of Concentration
Standard advice to "pay attention" or "concentrate" often backfires. Doshu Kenjiro Yoshigasaki, a transformative figure in Aikido, argued that concentration is actually a form of isolation.6 Biologically, concentration narrows our focus (foveal vision), which mimics the physiological stress response of "tunnel vision" seen in fight-or-flight states. Trying to force presence through concentration can increase tension and further disconnect us from our environment.
The Antidote: Total Perception
Yoshigasaki proposed an alternative: Total Perception. This is the cultivation of a diffuse, omnidirectional awareness that includes oneself, the partner, and the surrounding space simultaneously.
Total Perception is not an abstract philosophy but a physiological intervention. It relies heavily on spatial awareness to cure temporal displacement. You cannot be fully "in the now" (time) if you are not fully "in the here" (space).
How to Practice It: The Power of "Soft Eyes"
The most accessible tool for developing Total Perception is the use of "soft eyes" or peripheral vision.
The Mechanism: Engaging peripheral vision mechanically stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system (the "rest and digest" state). It signals to the brainstem that there is no immediate threat, effectively turning off the stress response that drives dissociation.
The Practice: Instead of staring hard at a specific object (which activates the sympathetic nervous system), soften your gaze to take in the 180-degree field around you. By anchoring your attention in the physical geometry of the room—perceiving the "lines and forms" of reality rather than the "stories" in your head—you force the brain to switch from the internal DMN to the external Task Positive Network.
Conclusion
We often treat "not being present" as a moral failing, but it is largely a physiological habit. We cannot think our way out of a thinking problem. By shifting from the narrow tension of concentration to the expansive ease of Total Perception, we provide our nervous system with the safety it needs to finally land in the present moment.